A JOURNEY FROM LOVE TO LUST
God
created mankind not to live alone. Human needs the presence of others to sustain (menopang) their existence in this world. Through interaction, we can
build connection, share feelings, and give a hand to others in need, not only
for biological but also for emotional ones (love, attention, empathy, etc.)
With
God bestowing (menganugerahkan) us love and mind, we are urged to find the best
life mate to live with someday, someone who can stand for us, work together to
achieve common goals, and stay with us even in the darkest time. People who are
loyal to a good relationship will sacrifice anything for the happiness of
his/her couple. Looking for the best candidate for partner in life before deciding
to marry is paramount (penting) to make a strong bound between
two to build true love.
However,
here are three shocking studies which prove love weakens. The first is quoted
from phschologytoday.com claiming that love inevitably (tak bias dipungkiri) fades after about 15 month. Secondly, professors
from Harvard Medical School, Richard Schwartz & Jacqueline Olds, said that
if love lasts, the rollercoaster (gejolak) of emotions and angst calms
within a year or two. They proposed a theory that there is an evitable change
over time from passionate love to what is typically called compassionate love (cinta
karena kasihan)―a deep love but not as euphoric as that experienced during
the early stages of romance.
The
third study comes from National Autonomous University of Mexico. The
researchers stated that no more true love within 4 years but sexual desire (hasrat). They found a fact that love is an obsession which
activates hormones in our brain to feel pleasure like dopamine, endorphin,
pheromone, oxytocin, and neurorepinephrine. Within 4 years, those hormones have
no more impact since our body has been resistant
(kebal) to its effect. Love then tends to (cenderung) fade (pudar) and change to lust.
An
anecdote is now rising among female youngsters asking us to be just realistic
in selecting life partner. Do not ever let go a wealthy guy who has already got
a permanent job, and put the look to the second. Framing those criteria is
better than ending up with divorce due to economic factor.
Source:
psychologytoday.com, neuro.hms.harvard.udu, detik.com
Let’s
discuss!
1.
Tell us your criteria of life mate?
2.
How would you agree (or disagree) with early marriage?
3.
How do you rank money, look, and love in terms of building relationship?
4.
Why do you agree (or disagree) with dating?
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